On a Pedestal

pedestal

A pedestal is defined as:

1. An architectural support or base, as for a column or statue.
2. A support or foundation.
3. A position of high regard or adoration.
(thefreedictionary.com)

Pedestals are designed to put something on display. The displayed item must always look good. It must be very still or it can fall. It cannot be too large, or it is unsteady–again in danger of falling. Its use is limited to being viewed, bragged about, and admired. It collects dust and can eventually be taken for granted. In the event of a fall, damage can occur; sometimes a fall results in being broken beyond repair, at least not without a scar.

Think twice before putting a person on a pedestal. People on a pedestal are at great risk of falling, being damaged, collecting dust, and being taken for granted. If I place perfectionist expectations on any person, I set myself and others up for disappointment.

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Guidelines for Fully Living, Part 4

  1. Be still and quiet
  2. Do not interrupt
  3. Apologize
  4. Mind your manners
  5. Watch the watchers
  6. Go boldly where no one has gone before; do it.
  7. Shoulders back, chest out, head up
  8. Don’t take yourself too seriously
  9. Rest is as holy as work
  10. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)

Guidelines for Living Fully, part 3

  1. Baby steps, slowImage
  2. Count the cost
  3. Selah
  4. Keep your eyes on the ball
  5. Wrist follow through
  6. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)
  7. Give extravagantly
  8. Give 100% effort
  9. Network
  10. Collaborate


Rules for Fully Living, part 2

11. Honor confidentiality
12. Be appropriately transparent
13. Listen well
14. Grieve your losses fully
15. Confront evil
16. Honor differences
17. Hurting people hurt people
18. Trust your instincts
19. We teach people how to  treat us
20. Enjoy simple pleasures

Guidelines for Living Fully

I started a few months ago compiling some guidelines (rules, if you prefer) for living fully. I share a few with you below.

1. Be grateful
2. Rejoice
3. Smile and laugh often
4. Trust
5.  Don’t waste good
6. Tell the truth
7. Know when to cut your losses
8. Know when to say no
9. Know when to wait
10. Know when to say nothing

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Chuckology

Who wants to study Chuck? Why would anyone want to? He’s a nice guy and fun to be around; even I acknowledge that. He’s also interesting and has some great experiences to share. He likes people. Chuck is also human and can empathize with almost anyone. There are skeletons in his closet, but he doesn’t try to hide them–for the most part.

But study him? He doesn’t want anyone to study him. The very idea gives him the shivers. Chuckology? The suffix, ology = the study of.

Bio = life.

Biology = the study of life.

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Geo = the earth.

Geology = the study of the earth.

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Chuck = me.

Chuckology = the study of me.

Boring! Why not just spend time with me, get to know me. We might become friends. I’d like that. Yes, indeed.

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Theo = God.

Theology = the study of God.

Boring! Why not just spend time with him, get to know him. You might become friends. I’m told that he’d like that. Hmmmm.

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Racial Discrimination

My friend and colleague is Portuguese.  He grew up in Dubai and spent most of his summers at his grandparents in India.  He rocks!  When he and I recently discussed his considering moving to the small town where I live, he shared a concern with me.

“What if,” he mused, “God-forbid, we have another 9/11?  Would I be in danger because of my skin color and physical features?”

Sadly, I had to concede that it might be a problem.  He’s neither Arabic nor Muslim.  But he could, by ignorant people, be mistaken for either of those.  Sad!

And, so what if he were Arabic or Muslim.  That should make no difference either.  Racial profiling and prejudice continue to prevail in this country.  Not just with Arabic and Muslim people, but with Hispanic, African American, Native American, Asian people, and others.  How embarrassing.  The land of the free?  Home of the brave?  Those discriminated against have been brave; the prejudiced have not!

On Transparency and Fear of Conflict

“Why reinvent the wheel?” someone asked.  So often others say things better than I ever would, so I like to share quotes.  Here are two:

On fear of conflict

“Why are we so afraid of conflict? Because we associate it with combat. Why are we afraid of combat? Because we don’t want to get hurt. In the workplace, the fear of conflict stunts creativity, growth and collaboration. So, if we want to get those three important ingredients for productivity and job satisfaction back, we need to learn how to manage conflict effectively for all concerned.” – Karen Mattonen

On being real (transparent)

“To be transparent is a relief. Muddy water hides a host of unpleasant surprises. Clear water shows us the bottom of the sea-the rubbish and debris if they are there, but also the multicolored fish, shells, starfish. Honesty allows us to look into someone’s eyes and through them into their heart.” – Joe Roberts

Osama Bin Laden

While driving in the backcountry of Alpine Ranch, my friend, Don, said to me, “Chuck, Christians and Muslims are a lot alike.”  I replied, “Yeah?  How’s that?”  “Neither of them have read their book,” he said with a smile.  I grinned back at him and said, “You’re right.”

Then he said, “If Muslims read their book, they’d all be terrorists.  And if Christians read their book, they’d be a lot nicer.”  This time I laughed.  He is correct, no doubt.

Have you read the Koran (Quran)?  I have.  It’s an intriguing book.  The Koran often advocates death to “the Great Satan” and killing “people of the book.” Many modern Muslims believe the United States to be “the Great Satan.”  They also believe that “people of the book” refers to Jews and Christians.  Osama Bin Laden did read his book.  No doubt, he truly believed he was an instrument of Allah.

Oh, and no wonder the troops encountered female human shields in Mr. Bin Laden’s compound.  The Koran treats women as chattel – to be used and of little value.  Yes, Osama read his book.  God, have mercy.

Workout – Exercise

As a high school athlete, I learned the discipline of repetitious exercise.  If I did few reps (repetitions), I received little benefit.  If I continued the repetitions until it hurt, I gained much.  No pain, no gain.

Now, I know that I need to walk, jog, do upper-body exercises until two things occur – pain and sweat.  The pain brings better muscle tone, greater strength, and more stamina.  The sweat helps my body eliminate toxins.  Do it until it hurts.  Sweat.  It’s that simple.

Me after many, many reps (just kidding)