On a Pedestal

pedestal

A pedestal is defined as:

1. An architectural support or base, as for a column or statue.
2. A support or foundation.
3. A position of high regard or adoration.
(thefreedictionary.com)

Pedestals are designed to put something on display. The displayed item must always look good. It must be very still or it can fall. It cannot be too large, or it is unsteady–again in danger of falling. Its use is limited to being viewed, bragged about, and admired. It collects dust and can eventually be taken for granted. In the event of a fall, damage can occur; sometimes a fall results in being broken beyond repair, at least not without a scar.

Think twice before putting a person on a pedestal. People on a pedestal are at great risk of falling, being damaged, collecting dust, and being taken for granted. If I place perfectionist expectations on any person, I set myself and others up for disappointment.

Guidelines for Fully Living, Part 4

  1. Be still and quiet
  2. Do not interrupt
  3. Apologize
  4. Mind your manners
  5. Watch the watchers
  6. Go boldly where no one has gone before; do it.
  7. Shoulders back, chest out, head up
  8. Don’t take yourself too seriously
  9. Rest is as holy as work
  10. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)

Guidelines for Living Fully, part 3

  1. Baby steps, slowImage
  2. Count the cost
  3. Selah
  4. Keep your eyes on the ball
  5. Wrist follow through
  6. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)
  7. Give extravagantly
  8. Give 100% effort
  9. Network
  10. Collaborate


The Bean Dance

Piki Bread

Last Saturday, Zoe and I (along with Nancy, a friend) enjoyed the Bean Dance at Mishongnovi, Hopi, AZ on Second Mesa.  Zoe and Nancy went early and helped the women prepare the food.  They saw things I didn’t.  The Bean Dance is associated with couples’ engagement to be married.  It involves the exchange and consumption of much food and Kachinas.

The whole week before the day that the woman takes the food to her in-laws, her family prepares a lot of pastries like cakes, pies, cookies, donuts, sweet rolls, etc.  Baskets and baskets of bread are also prepared as are strings of fruit.  The female relatives bring boxes of Piki bread, a traditional food only made on a hot, flat stone.  Piki bread is made from dried Sweet Corn kernels.  Dried Sweet Corn is a very costly commodity and  must be finely ground to make what the Hopi call a ‘Horse’.  It is actually a kind of a cake.  Many families have to prepare for this event a year or two in advance to be able to have everything ready.

The Dance itself has Kachinas coming out of the Kivas and dancing, chanting, snorting, and making other noises as they scurry in and out of the kivas with loads of food and other gifts that they take to members of the village.  The event we attended lasted approximately two hours.  This was preceded by a nice meal in the ancient home of the family of the woman who invited us.  Her home was directly across the street from three Kivas, so we literally had a ringside seat (sitting or standing just outside the front, and only, door).

We feel honored to have been invited to and participate in The Bean Dance.

Government Dependency

“”Todd’s family had worked hard to escape a rut that some find themselves in when faced with harsh conditions.  They saw that when government programs started growing, sometimes citizens became dependent on the programs and abandoned the strong work ethic of their elders.  This resulted in too many young people giving themselves over to a dependent lifestyle that often leads to fractured families, abuse, subpar education, and other problems.” – Sarah Palin referring to her Native American husband, Todd.

Working and living on the Navajo Nation the past year has confirmed Todd Palin’s observation.  I’ve also seen it on the nearby Hopi Reservation, and I saw it on the Alabama-Coushatta Reservation when I worked with them several years ago.

Is the same thing happening to the U.S. general population?  Hmmm.

Changes and Transitions

  1. Birth
  2. Death
  3. Marriage
  4. Divorce
  5. Illness
  6. Go to school
  7. Geographical move
  8. New job
  9. Promotion
  10. New business
  11. Demotion
  12. Loss of home (fire, bankruptcy, hurricane, tornado, etc.)
  13. Loss of limb or use of body part
  14. Menopause
  15. Enter military service
  16. Return to civilian life
  17. Rape
  18. Loss of virginity
  19. Dating
  20. Empty nest

Can you think of more?