Guidelines for Fully Living, Part 4

  1. Be still and quiet
  2. Do not interrupt
  3. Apologize
  4. Mind your manners
  5. Watch the watchers
  6. Go boldly where no one has gone before; do it.
  7. Shoulders back, chest out, head up
  8. Don’t take yourself too seriously
  9. Rest is as holy as work
  10. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)
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Guidelines for Living Fully, part 3

  1. Baby steps, slowImage
  2. Count the cost
  3. Selah
  4. Keep your eyes on the ball
  5. Wrist follow through
  6. Practice, practice, practice (if you want to improve)
  7. Give extravagantly
  8. Give 100% effort
  9. Network
  10. Collaborate


Rules for Fully Living, part 2

11. Honor confidentiality
12. Be appropriately transparent
13. Listen well
14. Grieve your losses fully
15. Confront evil
16. Honor differences
17. Hurting people hurt people
18. Trust your instincts
19. We teach people how to  treat us
20. Enjoy simple pleasures

Guidelines for Living Fully

I started a few months ago compiling some guidelines (rules, if you prefer) for living fully. I share a few with you below.

1. Be grateful
2. Rejoice
3. Smile and laugh often
4. Trust
5.  Don’t waste good
6. Tell the truth
7. Know when to cut your losses
8. Know when to say no
9. Know when to wait
10. Know when to say nothing

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Racial Discrimination

My friend and colleague is Portuguese.  He grew up in Dubai and spent most of his summers at his grandparents in India.  He rocks!  When he and I recently discussed his considering moving to the small town where I live, he shared a concern with me.

“What if,” he mused, “God-forbid, we have another 9/11?  Would I be in danger because of my skin color and physical features?”

Sadly, I had to concede that it might be a problem.  He’s neither Arabic nor Muslim.  But he could, by ignorant people, be mistaken for either of those.  Sad!

And, so what if he were Arabic or Muslim.  That should make no difference either.  Racial profiling and prejudice continue to prevail in this country.  Not just with Arabic and Muslim people, but with Hispanic, African American, Native American, Asian people, and others.  How embarrassing.  The land of the free?  Home of the brave?  Those discriminated against have been brave; the prejudiced have not!

On Transparency and Fear of Conflict

“Why reinvent the wheel?” someone asked.  So often others say things better than I ever would, so I like to share quotes.  Here are two:

On fear of conflict

“Why are we so afraid of conflict? Because we associate it with combat. Why are we afraid of combat? Because we don’t want to get hurt. In the workplace, the fear of conflict stunts creativity, growth and collaboration. So, if we want to get those three important ingredients for productivity and job satisfaction back, we need to learn how to manage conflict effectively for all concerned.” – Karen Mattonen

On being real (transparent)

“To be transparent is a relief. Muddy water hides a host of unpleasant surprises. Clear water shows us the bottom of the sea-the rubbish and debris if they are there, but also the multicolored fish, shells, starfish. Honesty allows us to look into someone’s eyes and through them into their heart.” – Joe Roberts

Workout – Exercise

As a high school athlete, I learned the discipline of repetitious exercise.  If I did few reps (repetitions), I received little benefit.  If I continued the repetitions until it hurt, I gained much.  No pain, no gain.

Now, I know that I need to walk, jog, do upper-body exercises until two things occur – pain and sweat.  The pain brings better muscle tone, greater strength, and more stamina.  The sweat helps my body eliminate toxins.  Do it until it hurts.  Sweat.  It’s that simple.

Me after many, many reps (just kidding)

Diverticulitis

A family member and friend died several years ago from colon cancer.  It was horrible.  He apparently had a cancerous appendix and did not know it.  Although the problem began when his appendix burst and spread cancer cells throughout his abdominal cavity, the doctors also implicated severe diverticulitis.

As I understand the disease, it is caused by the rupturing of tissue sacs that form along the wall of the large intestine.  When food, usually processed starches (white bread, pastries, etc., white rice, and other similar foods), get stuck in the folds between these sacs, they can eventually cause infection which leads to the sacs rupturing.  Treatment for diverticulitis usually involves antibiotics and a low-fiber diet until healing occurs, then a high fiber diet for the future – if the condition is not severe.  If severe, advanced diverticulitis occurs, a difficult surgery is usually the only help available.

“None of this is comfortable to talk about, but yet thousands of people suffer with this condition, especially in industrialized countries where diets are often made up of refined or processed foods, and severely lacking in fiber. This really can become another strong reminder for us to watch what we eat and make sure to balance our diets with healthy doses of fiber, water, and other colon-cleansing foods to ensure a healthy digestive system. The ‘preventative method’ sure beats the heck out of having to undergo a treatment for diverticulitis.”  (http://hubpages.com/hub/treatment-for-diverticulitis).

While watching my friend and relative suffer through this long, painful illness – then death – I determined to eat right and avoid that kind of agony.  I have enough problems without asking for them.

The Role of Exercise

Yes, physically we are what we eat, but to physically healthy, we must also exercise.  Sometimes, when I’m feeling tired and gloomy, I can go for a brisk walk and, “ouila,” I become energized and my attitude drastically improves.

When I don’t exercise, I sometimes go for a mental trip – not a healthy one – a guilt trip.  I’ve learned that even a 10-minute walk can make a big difference.  A 2-minute walk is much, much better than no walk (and they prevent so many guilt trips).  Mini-exercises, I call them.  Longer walks are better, and upper body exercises are important too.  Admittedly, it is not always easy to exercise.  The day goes by so fast.  The best thing for me is to exercise in the early morning.  But, that means getting up earlier.  It’s a struggle, but, hey, we’re worth it, right!?  Happy exercising.

Diet and Health

Noticing a new limp, I asked a friend, “What happened?”  “It’s just gout,” he replied.  “Ouch,” I said.  “I understand that gout’s painful.”  He affirmed that rumor.  Then he went on to tell me that it is hereditary.  In his family he had inherited a predisposition to gout, and his brother had inherited a predisposition to diabetes.  I told him I was sorry.  He said, “Oh well, both are controlled by what we eat, so we just watch our diets.  I just got off my diet, and I’m paying the price!”

He had a good attitude about it, and he knew how to avoid the unnecessary pain and illness.  In truth, having inherited a predisposition to gout (or diabetes) might have been a gift.  It forced him to eat more healthily.

Years ago I had to do the same thing, and I am grateful and much more healthy than I would have been.  Watch what you eat, friends.  I want you to be healthy and be my friend for a long time!